It’s amazing to me, how many people are afraid of the word “no”, ESPECIALLY when it comes to intimate relationships
The logic goes something like this:
We delay getting a “no” because if we get a “no” then we will be rejected, and if we’re rejected it means we are unlovable, unworthy and our dreams aren’t real. And feeling those feelings of rejection is almost worse than our feelings of fear surrounding death. So, our lower self does everything it can to avoid those feelings. It procrastinates. It overeats. It drinks too much. It works too much. It avoids tough conversations with loved ones. It’s passive aggressive and it runs from those who expose us to those critical deeper truths about ourselves.
But see, that way of thinking isn’t true. Getting a “no” can be painful, but it’s not final. Rejection and failure are outcomes only of the mind, but not of reality. In reality, if someone says “no”, it’s just a result. It’s impersonal. You take this result personally and call it “rejection” or “failure”, but The Uni-verse just calls it a result.
So, if you want to live your dreams, take Edison’s approach and instead of seeing “failure”, see each attempt that didn’t work as a result and as one step closer to your goal, because you now know one more thing that didn’t work. This means you are actually smarter and wiser than you were before.This is simply part of the learning process.
Taking things personally will not help you make your dreams comes true. As I said last week, if you come from a place of fullness, more fullness will be given to you. So, know that when you produce results that do not match your expectations, do not call it rejection or failure and then create some silly sob story about yourself. Just be full, learn your lessons and know that the perfect person and outcome is on the way. A delay is not a denial, my friend, and a shorterm “no” does not mean a final “no”.
Press on. Press on with all your heart and get busy producing results.